Life just blindsided me. The details are not important, but I want to share what I know about my thinking process that is helping me cope with the confusion and insanity that are impinging on my life.
First, I have learned that:
- A situation leads to a negative thought.
- That thought leads to a feeling.
- That feeling leads to a behavior.
- That behavior can lead to detrimental physical symptoms or ailments.
The remedy for me is if I can change my thoughts, then everything else beyond it will change for the better.
So when encountering a situation, here’s what I do:
- I stop.
- I breathe.
- I reflect.
- I choose a positive thought. (“SBRC”)
I choose positive thoughts by practicing positive affirmations. There are lists all over the internet and I google them whenever I cannot come up with any on my own.
Second, for me, negative thoughts are often based on my anger at other people. Anger is my false attempt to control other people. Since I cannot control other people, then the only solution is for me to forgive them. Forgiving is not letting them off the hook; it is me letting go of the anger within myself. I feel empowered when I forgive since that puts me back in control, not them.
One more thing, regarding breathing, I just read Yogi Seane Corn’s new book, Revolution of the Soul. In it she writes there: “Breathe and everything changes.” I have found this to be true.
ljg (c) 2019