A couple of days ago, at about 5 in the morning, I made this announcement on Facebook.
“Facebook is a time sucking vortex. It is addictive and therefore detrimental to one’s life. I would much rather interact with people in real ways, by, —oh I don’t know–having a conversation? Or receiving well-crafted and substantial letters? The only communication that I dislike more than Facebook is Twitter and texting. Oh, I’ll still sign on and check for news and coupons but if you really want to communicate, write me an email with more than 150 character or give me a ring.“
I got two supportive responses and a few likes, but as I suspect, most of my “friends” don’t follow me, and this post was largely unread. I would add then that Facebook is an exercise in futility as well.
The deeper issue for me with using social media is not its cyber-crack nature or time-wasting factor. More accurately, it is the shallowness and lack of authenticity in the interactions between people in these venues. That statement should not take anyone by surprise. My guess is that we all instinctively know that in most cases (though not all, I will concede) we don’t usually have true and natural relationships with people on-line. For example, a person you might know and care deeply about in real life will sometimes come off as a real putz online. You cannot hear tone and inflection in a 12-word tweet. You cannot see in their eyes and discern emotion. A post intended to mean one thing, may seem like it means something entirely else. Feelings get hurt. Real friendships are strained.
I would rather receive a real hug than a ((((hug)))).
So I stand by what I posted so early in the morning — maybe that is the time when my true and authentic self manifests- – I will be curtailing the time I spend in the cyber-realm to make more time to be true to others and myself.
And I actually might have time to begin writing again.