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Reality Bites: The Naysayers and Crazymakers

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baseballProgress always involves risk; you can’t steal second base and keep your foot on first.
       ― F.W. Dupee, American literary critic

The simile that life is like a baseball game has become a bit of a cliche’.  However, this may be because the comparison is an appropriate one.  For example, how many of us have risked stealing a base only to get tagged out by that baseman standing between us an our goal?  We try to make changes to the quality of our lives only to encounter naysayers and crazymakers who trip us up.  Sometimes we are inclined to stay on first base and never take that risk of making a change.

I have encounter this many times in my life.  When I decided to pursue a different spiritual path than my extended family, I met with resistance.  When I decided to go to college right after high school instead of going to work, I was told I was being lazy.  When I decided I wanted to be a writer, I was told that I was being weird.  And now as I am trying to do things to save my life, I have heard the terms “masochistic”, “not healthy” and a few others being pitched at me.   These barbs may seem harmless and all in good fun, and one may be inclined to think, “What’s the big deal?”  Let me tell you: the messages are subtle and all aimed to sabotage.

What possesses the people who know us and presumably care about us to say those things?  It might be that when we attempt to change, we shake up the status quo of THEIR lives and make them feel uncomfortable.  Maybe they just like being mean.  Who knows?

But what I do know is that when you are trying to make progress in your life, you will have to deal with these people.  To achieve your goal, you need to go around them, over them, under them or even through them.  But whatever you do, just don’t listen to them.

That is what I have tried to do with all my endeavors.  Not only did I begin walking a different spiritual path, I have stayed on it for nearly 30 years and am flourishing in it.  Not only did I go to school, I achieved a BA (magna cum laud) and an MA, all the time working full time.  A writer is someone who writes.  I do this nearly every day, and the fact that you are reading this right now is a sign that I have achieved that goal.  And now, I am embarking on the run to the next base — to improve my physical health -and I am not going to let anyone get in my way.

I don’t say all this to be proud and boastful.   I share this for two reasons:  First, as a form of accountability. If I put it out there, I have a better chance of achieving my goal.  I appreciate a fan section that urges me on and I thank you.  If you want to trip me up and tag me out, be prepared for me to slide right into you and knock you out of the way.

Secondly, — and you may have heard this before but it bears repeating –I am telling you this so in case you have a desire or a goal you want to achieve, you may need to stand up to the naysayers and crazymakers in your own lives, confront them with as much love, and kindness, and respect as you can muster and simply say:

“Stop it.” 

ljgloyd (c) 2015

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7 thoughts on “Reality Bites: The Naysayers and Crazymakers

  1. Lori, you have crossed over many thresholds as you walked your journey, and doubtless many more lie waiting. There will always be beasts to battle along the way, but the beauty and mystery of the threshold experience is that you will always find angels gathering around you too. Your tribe are always cheering you on! xox

  2. Go Lori! Yay! And well said!

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